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And even though I had a near breaking point when I had to poop in a plastic bag inside my tent because there was no other alternative, I felt invincible. I felt invincible that nothing and no one external to myself could steal my peace or joy. Nothing and no one would offload their drama or shit onto me. I felt invincible that I finally am the person I hoped to be, the person that my parents were not capable of becoming.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Always say yes and take on more than I can handle, stressing self to the max. 🌀 Hide or fall off the face of the earth when I start to notice that I can’t meet all my promises. 🌀 Chronically procrastinate, poor follow-through (eg. missed deadlines, late fees).
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Present self as having it all together and don’t need anything from anyone. 🌀 Be a know-it-all, constantly correcting others with unsolicited advice, closed off to new insights, lessons, or perspectives. 🌀 Uncomfortable in a room if not holding a position of power or importance (usually the leader, rarely the follower).
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Extremely high expectations of self/others to be good, perfect, altruistic at all times. 🌀 Vacillate between extreme perfectionism and extreme rebellion/non-conformity. 🌀 Take on others’ poor behavior as my own fault, enabling them to avoid personal responsibility and accountability.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Give away my resources (time, energy, money, body, services, etc.) for free or for very little, as if they were disposable. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own security and well being, thus perpetually feeling depleted, indebted and/or in survival mode. 🌀 Overstay miserable relationships and/or flee at the first sign of conflict.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Constantly misunderstood and told to calm down, be quiet and/or stop moving. 🌀 Others are intimidated / overwhelmed by the bigness of my ambition, energy, speed, creative pursuits, voice, etc. 🌀 Chronically repress my needs / desires, never asking for their fulfillment, fearing that they are “too much” for others.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Design my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions (eg. workaholism), thus further isolating myself. 🌀 Contort self to be what others want, so to be loved, accepted and/or validated. 🌀 Overstay relationships that I’ve long outgrown because I can’t bear ending up alone and/or abandoning others.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Stay small and mousy, so not to make noise, make waves or bother anyone. 🌀 Extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, rarely creating support systems that allow others to give to me, thus feeling alone and isolated (curse of self-sufficiency). 🌀 Feel obligated to jump in and rescue / fix everything that is wrong, unable not to.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Feel like the black sheep of the family, never really fitting in anywhere, and longing for true belonging. 🌀 Carry heavy false belief that life is lonely, unkind or not made for people like me. 🌀 Suffer from severe self-doubt and/or self-hatred due to lack of loving recognition, by self and/or others, of my unique gifts.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Live in chronic stress / fear that it’s dangerous to be seen (eg. I’ll be burnt at the stake or hacked down to size). 🌀 Shy, always redirect focus on others to hide true self, worth, and/or power. 🌀 Unable not to give to others, even if at my own expense, exhaustion or annihilation.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Carry the false belief that it’s evil to have (money, love, joy, pleasure), that I need to be poor to be good. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own well being by over-working and under-earning. 🌀 Crushed under the weight of scarcity, with never enough time, money, opportunities, support, love to go around.
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Rarely content because life is ruled by impossibly high standards of perfection. 🌀 Chronically over-give, over-do and over-compensate just to get the same success and/or validation as everyone else. 🌀 Organize life around duty and survival (eg. debt, clutter, barren home) rather than thriving (eg. beauty, joy, pleasure).
Do you recognize these symptoms or behaviors that perpetuate the wound? 🌀 Suffer from hyper-vigilance, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. 🌀 Overly naïve, trusting, and disclosing of intimate details before others have earned my trust, thus attracting narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists who take advantage of my openness. 🌀 Take a lot of uncalculated risks, living close to the edge, with few safety nets.
How do you stay consistent? How do you gracefully and effortlessly keep up the momentum that you've already created, especially during summer sunshine lulls, back-to-school frenzy, and blink-and-it's here holiday drama? I'm going to share with you the #1 most grounding success ritual I have. It's so simple.
True time freedom isn't just having the hours in a day to do whatever you want, whenever, wherever, however, with whomever you want. It's experiencing all 4 levels of knowing that freedom from time can occur without doing anything or going anywhere.
Peacocks eat thorns when food is scare and process them into "feathers with colors and shapes unmatched throughout nature for their extraordinary beauty. So it is with us.” But does all beauty have to come from hard pain? Read on to find out!
"Rest until you feel like playing, then play until you feel like resting, period. Never do anything else." Could you live by this motto in order to pour grace all over your freedompreneurship journey?
What is surrender? What is atonement? And what do they have to do with mind, body, heart and spirit liberation from the bondage and abuse of Wounded Patriarchy on women? Read on to witness the unfolding of the Snakes and Ladders game of freedom.
Ever since I was little, I was called "sweetheart money tree" as a term of endearment... as in you shake it and money falls out. It wasn't until I learned about the term filial piety and studied my clients that I saw what cause overachiever exhaustion. Read on to see it for yourself!
It's been 6 years (which feels more like 15 years) of snakes and ladders in writing/publishing land, with no book to show for. Then, in a moment of convergence of 3 seemingly unrelated events, boom!, the thread of my story revealed itself. Read on to find out how!
As far as I can remember, all I've ever wanted was to be free. So I definitely didn't know that saying yes to freedompreneurship would turn out to be a spiritual quest of reclaiming the 1,000 pieces of my soul. Read on to know how it all started!
My hyper-achiever saboteur died. Yay! But... I was always super shocked when it died... again. I mean, had it magically resurrected when I wasn’t watching? It turns out, no, saboteurs don't just resurrect. But they can be laid to rest by attaining the 4 types of knowing. Read on to find out how!