Jun 2, 2021   •   12 Min Read

Purging Negative Memories Takes Time (Part 4/4)

When I updated this blog series from 2017 in 2021, I realized that 28 of those original 36 memories had vanished. Even under hypnotherapy, I wouldn't have remembered them. They no longer carried any emotional charge. And that is what I call freedom!


May 26, 2021   •   8 Min Read

Purging Negative Memories Takes Time (Part 3/4)

Asking an overachiever to be patient is is like asking a bowling ball to float. Because we are super-doers, we think we can out-do the Universe. Ha! Purging negative memories is a journey of healing, forgiveness and surrendering to the grand unfolding of our lives.


May 19, 2021   •   8 Min Read

Purging Negative Memories Takes Time (Part 2/4)

An emotionally charged money incident can scar or even traumatize a child. Just because our body has aged chronologically, it doesn't mean that inner child has recovered. How do we unwire and rewire our fear and scarcity circuitries?


May 12, 2021   •   10 Min Read

Purging Negative Money Memories Takes Time (Part 1/4)

With every client who has money gremlins, we do a "Negative Money Memory Purge." It helps pull whatever guilt, hurt, shame, anxiety, or fear associated with money out of their psyche. Then we burn the paper(s) 🔥 to free the mind, heart and body.


May 5, 2020   •   26 Min Read

Fears Drilldown • Unmasking the 25 Faces of Fear

Turns out there aren’t 25 different types of fear. There is one root fear, which wears 25 different masks. If you could unmask each one, could you become fearless, as in less afraid? If you practiced fear dissolution, could you become fear-free? Let’s explore.

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Apr 28, 2021   •   7 Min Read

The Liberator's Journey... for a Freedom Seeker (Part 3/3)

What happens after we return home, powerful and whole? The hungry freedom seeker is about to transform into a fulfilled liberator on The Liberator's Journey...


Apr 21, 2021   •   7 Min Read

The Heroine's Journey... for a Woman Overachiever (Part 2/3)

Instead of transforming a hero from lone outcast to victorious warrior, The Heroine's Journey transforms a heroine from abandoned girl to reclaimed goddess....


Apr 14, 2021   •   8 Min Read

The Hero's Journey... for a Lifestyle Entrepreneur (Part 1/3)

Anytime you're about to do something new, different, or daring, whether you know it or not, you are embarking on a quest. Joseph Campbell coined this quest The Hero's Journey...


Dec 15, 2020   •   8 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Spiritual Guide

All these spiritual flues, energetic ascensions, and mystical experiences, I never asked for any of them. Did I? I feel like I made a heap of choices before coming to Earth, but I can't remember most of them. Would I have lived differently if I remembered those choices?


Dec 8, 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Psychotherapist

Midway through my certification, I developed the ability to feel what my clients were feeling, but 2-3 days before they felt it. Hearts were cracked open and mended with grace. But just because you can, doesn't mean you should...


Dec 1, 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Aerial Yoga Studio

I literally smacked into this career identity, which would lead to a love at first sight partnership 6 years later. The studio was up and running in 3 weeks time! But it's true what they say: if you're gonna fail, fail fast. But first, try everything 3 times.


Nov 24 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Wealth Mentor

I could have coasted through this semi-retirement lifestyle for decades, but my soul yearned and cried for deeper meaning and broader contribution. "F*ck you, soul! Why can't you just be content?!?" Ah, but a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor...


Nov 17 , 2020   •   15 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Success Coach

For the first time in my life, I felt seen for who I am, not for what I'd achieved. I had no idea that I had walked into the alchemical fire that would forge me from a freedom seeker into a liberator. All triggered by a date who stood me up!


Nov 10 , 2020   •   12 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Web Design Agency

This career identity took twice as long to let go than to build. I resented the Universe for calling me onto a new path, which I didn't even ask for it, and for making something I adored feel like such a drag.


Nov 3 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a United Nations Consultant

This career was dreamier than the previous dream career. If I let it go there will be nothing left. It'd be years before I'd know that when you reach the end of your rope, the Universe intervenes. Not to hand you a new rope (that would be too easy), but to...


Oct 27 , 2020   •   11 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Global E-strategist

I lined up 5 interviews in 5 days in New York City, got on a plane, got a job offer and apartment on Day 6, flew home on Day 7 to pack and moved my entire life to NYC on Day 8. That is what "all in" looked like.


Oct 20 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an International Aid Worker

For the first time in my life I followed my heart, not what was demanded of me. I decided I wanted to do good as a career, it was destined for me. I would learn the hard way that destiny is not a destination.


Oct 15 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Systems Designer

Go ahead, put on the golden shackles, I am ready to become the work ox and ATM machine I was born to be. It be another 12 years before I'd learn about "spiritual aridity" and how the cost of misery is too high a price to pay.


Oct 6, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Energy Researcher

I felt mad making a career 180 and starting over from scratch at this point. Who walks away from job offers and amazing female mentors?!? It'd be another 9 years before I discerned: Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.


Sep 29, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Aerospace Engineer

Someone out there is able to study the cosmos thanks to aerospace telescope parts that I made with my two bare hands. But keeping the awe of the cosmos in my heart isn't the same as spending an entire career climbing uphill toward an impenetrable "Boys Club."


Sep 22 , 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Banking Officer

I did a career 180 when I went into banking, thinking I'd finally become the best white man and eldest son I was supposed to be. Ha! In the end, only three things matter: one of them is letting go of things not meant for you.


sep 15 , 2020   •   7 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Industrial Machinist

I had never touched any kind of industrial machinery before, but my aluminum coupling turned out better than my mentor's. But that career would have been an over-compensation for the career that my dad loss.


Sep 8 , 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Web Developer

I made websites just because, out of pure joy, pure curiosity, pure creativity. Then people started paying me for it. Who knew that would happen?!? But with every gain, there is great loss...


Sep 1, 2020   •   8 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Computer Teacher

Navigating identity crisis, non-conformity and freedom requires a soul with stamina. "The price is high, the reward is great." May these stories of my 16 career identity re-inventions inspire you to make brave leaps of faith, examine your choices with awe, and surrender to the unfolding of your unique path.


Apr 29, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Artist • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Artist, dreamer, inventor, and designer? Do you believe that we can create anything we can imagine? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 28, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Ruler • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Ruler, leader, queen, and boss? Do you believe that order and systems achieve excellence? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 27, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Nurturer • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Nurturer, care giver, guardian angel, and supporter? Do you believe that we're all walking each other home? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 26, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Humanitarian • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Humanitarian, activist, unsung hero, and neighbor? Do you believe that you matter and in loving thy neighbor? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 25, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Jester • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Jester, entertainer, comedian, and energy shifter? Do you believe in always having fun and living in the moment? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 24, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Lover • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Lover, goddess, hedonist, and seductress? Do you believe in following your bliss and making others feel special? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 23, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Heroine • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Heroine, warrior, survivor, and champion? Do you believe you will triumph over anything you set your mind to? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 22, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Alchemist • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Alchemist, magician, visionary, and shaman? Do you believe that magic and miracles are real? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 21, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Maverick • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Maverick, rebel, daredevil, and badass? Do you believe that rules are meant to be broken? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 20, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Explorer • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Explorer, pioneer, seeker, and risk taker? Do you believe that meaning comes from living our core values? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 19, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Sage • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Sage, teacher, oracle, and scientist? Do you believe that the truth will set you free? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Apr 18, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Innocent • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Innocent, optimist, idealist, and believer? Do you believe that there is beauty in simplicity, joy in Grace? Read on and take the quiz to find out!


Sep 10, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Failure Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Always say yes and take on more than I can handle, stressing self to the max. 🌀 Hide or fall off the face of the earth when I start to notice that I can’t meet all my promises. 🌀 Chronically procrastinate, poor follow-through (eg. missed deadlines, late fees).


Sep 9, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Powerless Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Present self as having it all together and don’t need anything from anyone. 🌀 Be a know-it-all, constantly correcting others with unsolicited advice, closed off to new insights, lessons, or perspectives. 🌀 Uncomfortable in a room if not holding a position of power or importance (usually the leader, rarely the follower).


Sep 8, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Mistake Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Extremely high expectations of self/others to be good, perfect, altruistic at all times. 🌀 Vacillate between extreme perfectionism and extreme rebellion/non-conformity. 🌀 Take on others’ poor behavior as my own fault, enabling them to avoid personal responsibility and accountability.


Sep 7, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Disposable Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Give away my resources (time, energy, money, body, services, etc.) for free or for very little, as if they were disposable. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own security and well being, thus perpetually feeling depleted, indebted and/or in survival mode. 🌀 Overstay miserable relationships and/or flee at the first sign of conflict.


Sep 6, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The "Too Much" Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Constantly misunderstood and told to calm down, be quiet and/or stop moving. 🌀 Others are intimidated / overwhelmed by the bigness of my ambition, energy, speed, creative pursuits, voice, etc. 🌀 Chronically repress my needs / desires, never asking for their fulfillment, fearing that they are “too much” for others.


Sep 5, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Abandoned Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Design my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions (eg. workaholism), thus further isolating myself. 🌀 Contort self to be what others want, so to be loved, accepted and/or validated. 🌀 Overstay relationships that I’ve long outgrown because I can’t bear ending up alone and/or abandoning others.


Sep 4, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Burden Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Stay small and mousy, so not to make noise, make waves or bother anyone. 🌀 Extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, rarely creating support systems that allow others to give to me, thus feeling alone and isolated (curse of self-sufficiency). 🌀 Feel obligated to jump in and rescue / fix everything that is wrong, unable not to.


Sep 3, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Freak Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Feel like the black sheep of the family, never really fitting in anywhere, and longing for true belonging. 🌀 Carry heavy false belief that life is lonely, unkind or not made for people like me. 🌀 Suffer from severe self-doubt and/or self-hatred due to lack of loving recognition, by self and/or others, of my unique gifts.


Sep 2, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Invisible Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Live in chronic stress / fear that it’s dangerous to be seen (eg. I’ll be burnt at the stake or hacked down to size). 🌀 Shy, always redirect focus on others to hide true self, worth, and/or power. 🌀 Unable not to give to others, even if at my own expense, exhaustion or annihilation.


Sep 1, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Deprived Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Carry the false belief that it’s evil to have (money, love, joy, pleasure), that I need to be poor to be good. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own well being by over-working and under-earning. 🌀 Crushed under the weight of scarcity, with never enough time, money, opportunities, support, love to go around.


Aug 31, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Insufficient Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Rarely content because life is ruled by impossibly high standards of perfection. 🌀 Chronically over-give, over-do and over-compensate just to get the same success and/or validation as everyone else. 🌀 Organize life around duty and survival (eg. debt, clutter, barren home) rather than thriving (eg. beauty, joy, pleasure).


Aug 30, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Unsafe Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Suffer from hyper-vigilance, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. 🌀 Overly naïve and trusting, thus attracting narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists. 🌀 Take a lot of uncalculated risks, living close to the edge, with few safety nets.


Aug 26, 2020   •   7 Min Read

Post-it Wall of Greatness

Have you ever faced the uncomfortable "Now what?!?" after you've achieved a milestone? You thought you'd be ecstatic, but instead are fogged in doubt and uncertainty of "Is this all there is?" Then it's time to make a Post-it Wall of Greatness!


Aug 19, 2020   •   4 Min Read

Soul Coming of Age Ritual • A Story of Legally Changing my First and Last Name

When I meet people and say, "Hi, I'm Ellany" they'll usually comment that it's a beautiful name or a very unique name. I always smile, "Thank you," and once in a while I add, "I chose it."


Aug 12, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Farewell In the Air • A Story of Dad Passing Away at the Start of my Exquisite Freedom Tour

I had decided to celebrate my semi-retirement at 33 with an Exquisite Freedom Tour: 16 countries in 16 weeks, to visit besties, clients and fans around the world so that I could select my next home base....


Aug 5, 2020   •   5 Min Read

iPhone in Watery Grave • A Story of Hope and Believing in Miracles

I once went sunset paddle boarding off the pristine beaches of Boracay, in the Philippines. I had my shiny new iPhone sealed in a high grade water proof case, clipped around my neck. As I was mesmerized by the sunset, I felt like a dip so jumped into the ocean for a swim...


Jul 08, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Shifting Tides Freedom (Part 4)

Leena creates product suites and marketing materials for the travel industry. She’s a free spirit and citizen of the world. She moved 11 timezones in pursuit of career opportunities, which came knocking from London to Singapore, from Dubai to Sydney. To her surprise...


Jul 01, 2020   •   3 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Mirage Freedom (Part 3)

I've shared Rose's story of Unfulfilling Freedom (aka creative starvation) and Lily's story of Untethered Freedom (aka "spiritual vegetable).This week, meet Priya and her story of Mirage Freedom.


JuN 24, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Untethered Freedom (Part 2)

Lily had a 15 year career in global procurement, a glamorous life, a $250,000/year salary, a practically inexhaustible expense account, a fancy wardrobe, and anything else money could buy. However...


JuN 17, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Unfulfilling Freedom (Part 1)

By all external standards, Rose has made it. She has 47 real estate properties, more money than she could ever need, and doesn’t have to work another day in her life. However...


Dec 17, 2016   •   4 Min Read

An Overachiever's Hierarchy of Needs

Today, I'm writing to you from Odessa, Ukraine. Totally did not plan on being here. The only thing I knew about Ukraine is that the Ukrainian figure skater Oksana Baiul who won the gold medal in 1994. And the only thing I knew about Odessa is that it's by the sea. I love the sea <3


dec 28, 2016   •   2 Min Read

14 Differences between Hyperachievers and Liberated Overachievers

I'm in Georgetown, Guyana, and there's not much to do here. So it's given me plenty of time to cross-reference a tidy table of the 14 differences I've observed in my overachiever clients, colleagues, friends and self, between self-sabotaging Hyperachievers and liberated Overachievers.


dec 04, 2019   •   11 Min Read

86 Motivations that fueled my becoming a freedompreneur

At Guide to Grace, we hold and guide women on their leap from solopreneur to entrepreneur or from entrepreneur to freedompreneur.


dec 12, 2018   •   9 Min Read

The Freedom Experiment • How I'm Traveling Every Country in the World (Part 1/3)

I was once interviewed by my friend Ric Gazarian at Counting Countries and asked if I always dreamed of visiting every country in the world. "Not at all!", was my answer...


dec 26, 2018   •   10 Min Read

The Freedom Experiment • How I'm Traveling Every Country in the World (Part 2/3)

At the end of my work term in Rwanda, I didn't have the chance to visit the Virunga Mountain Gorillas, which I had diligently saved up for, because the ministry that issued work permits held my passport until, and I only got it back the Friday before I left the country the next morning.


jan 14, 2019   •   8 Min Read

The Freedom Experiment • How I'm Traveling Every Country in the World (Part 3/3)

At this point on my globetrotting journeys, I mastered being a digital nomad, traveling 20 countries in 16 weeks. So I figured, why stop? I always wanted to visit Argentina, which didn't make it onto Around-the-World 2005 trip because Star Alliance didn't have an airline partner down there...


jan 12, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Dare to lead: from armored leadership to daring leadership

Based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown, this Dare to Lead table guides founders, overachievers, leaders, trailblazers and entrepreneurs from armored leadership to daring leadership.


mar 19, 2020   •   7 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Built my Signature Program Organically and Gracefully

Whether it's a workshop, a virtual training or something in between, your masterclass, your life's masterpiece, can be created the hard way or the graceful way


mar 4, 2020   •   20 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Marketed my Masterclass Organically and Gracefully

I once stumbled upon an e-course called "Create your Damn E-course" and it made me chuckle because without even realizing it, people were damning their own e-courses right from the beginning. No wonder they never finished the e-course, didn't launch it, or launched it but made no money.


feb 19, 2020   •   17 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Created my Boutique Business Brand Organically and Gracefully

This week, doing the right things in the right order is the focus. You must know your ideal client before you tailor your curriculum to their deepest needs.You must build a dream team (even if it just starts with one, plus you) before you dive into recording/editing or you won't make it to the finish line...


feb 12, 2020   •   10 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Unleashed my Genius Organically and Gracefully

There is faaaaaar too much hype around "Make $90,000 in 90 Days!", "Be Famous in Five Minutes!", "Six weeks to Six-figures!", or "11 Day E-course Challenge". I'm not saying that those claims don't work. I'm saying that it's not the full picture. I'm saying what they're not saying...


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