AUG 25, 2021   •  7 Min Read

Private Journals on Somatic Experiencing and Healing Trauma

Will I ever be ok? In this cruel, harsh world? Can I even trust my memories? Or lack thereof? What's real and not real anymore? Isn't healing supposed to restore my energy, not drain it?

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aug 18, 2021   •  10 Min Read

Passive Trauma • How Every Human Has Some PTSD

I spent months uneasy with the diagnosis of PTSD. In my ego-construct, PTSD was exclusively reserved for war veterans, refugees, and car crash and assault victims. It turns out, shame had me believe that I wasn't worthy of the PTSD diagnosis, ie of its healing...

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AUG 11, 2021   •  8 Min Read

The 5 Freedom Factors • Discerning Between Passion, Calling, Mission, Vocation and Profession

There is an exquisite freedom at the intersection of: Passion, Calling, Mission, Vocation and Profession. Meet the 3 archetypes who have not quite arrived and why.

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Aug 4, 2021  •    2 Min Read

Purpose Petals • Why Am I Here?

Have you ever caught yourself sobbing "It's not fair!" or ripping your hair out "But that makes no sense!?!" We didn't come here for fairness or sense making. Our souls came here to: grow, love, be loved, enjoy and be of service.

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Jul 28, 2021  •   6 Min Read

The Barf Bucket • How I Purged Patriarchy from my Body

Our wounds from our Family of Origin are most often not about the parent or the perpetrator, but a portal into larger forces at play in the Collective Unconscious, such as Sacred Contracts and karmic agreements. There are no overnight sensations when it comes to healing, but there is atonement and earning a "Get Out of Jail Free" card from systemic patriarchy.

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JUL 21, 2021  •  6 Min Read

Filial Piety • How Asian Parents Sow the Seeds of "Not Enough" and Self-hatred

Ever come home from school with a 99% and had your Asian parent ask you where the 1% went? How about coming home with 109% and still being asked there the 1% went. When the voice of "You're not enough!" are internalized, it turns to shame. Then under the magnifying glass of filial piety, it turns to self-hatred.

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Jul 14, 2021   •   7 Min Read

Filial Piety & Overcompensation • Why Skyholders, Money Trees and Immigrant Children Are So Burnt Out

Ever since I was little, I was called a "money tree" as a term of endearment. You shake it and money is supposed to fall out. It wasn't until I realized the insidious role of "filial piety" that I understood what drives overachievers and immigrants to burnout.

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JUL  7, 2021  •  5 Min Read

The Roasted Butterfly • How Overachievers and the Restless Self-destruct from Shiny Object Syndrome

Do you have Shiny Object Syndrome, aka ADD / ADHD, aka as Squirrel!!! 🐿🐿 🐿 Have you ever been over-zealous, saw something shiny, touched it then got burned?

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JUN 30 , 2021  •  6 Min Read

Re-collecting the 4 Types of Knowing

Have you ever caught yourself in a pause moment of, "Wait, what? Again?!?" You know to work smarter, not harder, but here you are burning the midnight oil... again. You know to stay present and let genius lead, but here you are frantically juggling 800 balls of fire... again.Then you find yourself shouting to the sky, "Whyyyyyy?!? 😫  I know this. So WTF! Why again?!?"

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Jun 23, 2021   •   20 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Built my Masterclass Organically and Gracefully

I once stumbled upon an e-course called "Create your Damn E-course" and it made me chuckle because without even realizing it, people were damning their own e-courses right from the beginning. No wonder they never finished the e-course, didn't launch it, or launched it but made no money.

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Jun 16, 2021   •   17 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Created my Boutique Business Brand Organically and Gracefully

This week, doing the right things in the right order is the focus. You must know your ideal client before you tailor your curriculum to their deepest needs.You must build a dream team (even if it just starts with one, plus you) before you dive into recording/editing or you won't make it to the finish line...

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JUN 9, 2021   •   11 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Unleashed my Genius Organically and Gracefully

There is faaaaaar too much hype around "Make $90,000 in 90 Days!", "Be Famous in Five Minutes!", "Six weeks to Six-figures!", or "11 Day E-course Challenge". I'm not saying that those claims don't work. I'm saying that it's not the full picture. I'm saying what they're not saying...

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Jun 2, 2021   •   12 Min Read

Purging Negative Memories Takes Time (Part 4/4)

When I updated this blog series from 2017 in 2021, I realized that 28 of those original 36 memories had vanished. Even under hypnotherapy, I wouldn't have remembered them. They no longer carried any emotional charge. And that is what I call freedom!

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May 26, 2021   •   8 Min Read

Purging Negative Memories Takes Time (Part 3/4)

Asking an overachiever to be patient is is like asking a bowling ball to float. Because we are super-doers, we think we can out-do the Universe. Ha! Purging negative memories is a journey of healing, forgiveness and surrendering to the grand unfolding of our lives.

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May 19, 2021   •   8 Min Read

Purging Negative Memories Takes Time (Part 2/4)

An emotionally charged money incident can scar or even traumatize a child. Just because our body has aged chronologically, it doesn't mean that inner child has recovered. How do we unwire and rewire our fear and scarcity circuitries?

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May 12, 2021   •   10 Min Read

Purging Negative Money Memories Takes Time (Part 1/4)

With every client who has money gremlins, we do a "Negative Money Memory Purge." It helps pull whatever guilt, hurt, shame, anxiety, or fear associated with money out of their psyche. Then we burn the paper(s) 🔥 to free the mind, heart and body.

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May 5, 2021   •   26 Min Read

The Matrix of Fears • Unmasking the 25 Faces of Fear

Turns out there aren’t 25 different types of fear. There is one root fear, which wears 25 different masks. If you could unmask each one, could you become fearless, as in less afraid? If you practiced fear dissolution, could you become fear-free? Let’s explore.

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Apr 28, 2021   •   7 Min Read

The Liberator's Journey... for a Freedom Seeker (Part 3/3)

What happens after we return home, powerful and whole? The hungry freedom seeker is about to transform into a fulfilled liberator on The Liberator's Journey...

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Apr 21, 2021   •   7 Min Read

The Heroine's Journey... for a Woman Overachiever (Part 2/3)

Instead of transforming a hero from lone outcast to victorious warrior, The Heroine's Journey transforms a heroine from abandoned girl to reclaimed goddess....

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Apr 14, 2021   •   8 Min Read

The Hero's Journey... for a Lifestyle Entrepreneur (Part 1/3)

Anytime you're about to do something new, different, or daring, whether you know it or not, you are embarking on a quest. Joseph Campbell coined this quest The Hero's Journey...

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Dec 15, 2020   •   8 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Spiritual Guide

All these spiritual flues, energetic ascensions, and mystical experiences, I never asked for any of them. Did I? I feel like I made a heap of choices before coming to Earth, but I can't remember most of them. Would I have lived differently if I remembered those choices?

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Dec 8, 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Psychotherapist

Midway through my certification, I developed the ability to feel what my clients were feeling, but 2-3 days before they felt it. Hearts were cracked open and mended with grace. But just because you can, doesn't mean you should...

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Dec 1, 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Aerial Yoga Studio

I literally smacked into this career identity, which would lead to a love at first sight partnership 6 years later. The studio was up and running in 3 weeks time! But it's true what they say: if you're gonna fail, fail fast. But first, try everything 3 times.

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Nov 24 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Wealth Mentor

I could have coasted through this semi-retirement lifestyle for decades, but my soul yearned and cried for deeper meaning and broader contribution. "F*ck you, soul! Why can't you just be content?!?" Ah, but a smooth sea never made a skilled sailor...

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Nov 17 , 2020   •   15 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Success Coach

For the first time in my life, I felt seen for who I am, not for what I'd achieved. I had no idea that I had walked into the alchemical fire that would forge me from a freedom seeker into a liberator. All triggered by a date who stood me up!

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Nov 10 , 2020   •   12 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Web Design Agency

This career identity too twice as long to let go than to build. I resented the Universe for calling me onto a new path, which I didn't even ask for it, and for making something I adored feel like such a drag.

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Nov 3 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a United Nations Consultant

This career was dreamier than the previous dream career. If I let it go there will be nothing left. It'd be years before I'd know that when you reach the end of your rope, the Universe intervenes. Not to hand you a new rope (that would be too easy), but to...

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Oct 27 , 2020   •   11 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Global E-strategist

I lined up 5 interviews in 5 days in New York City, got on a plane, got a job offer and apartment on Day 6, flew home on Day 7 to pack and moved my entire life to NYC on Day 8. That is what "all in" looked like.

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Oct 20 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an International Aid Worker

For the first time in my life I followed my heart, not what was demanded of me. I decided I wanted to do good as a career, it was destined for me. I would learn the hard way that destiny is not a destination.

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Oct 13 , 2020   •   9 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Systems Designer

Go ahead, put on the golden shackles, I am ready to become the work ox and ATM machine I was born to be. It be another 12 years before I'd learn about "spiritual aridity" and how the cost of misery is too high a price to pay.

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Oct 6, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Energy Researcher

I felt mad making a career 180 and starting over from scratch at this point. Who walks away from job offers and amazing female mentors?!? It'd be another 9 years before I discerned: Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

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Sep 29, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Aerospace Engineer

Someone out there is able to study the cosmos thanks to aerospace telescope parts that I made with my two bare hands. But keeping the awe of the cosmos in my heart isn't the same as spending an entire career climbing uphill toward an impenetrable "Boys Club."

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Sep 22 , 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Banking Officer

I did a career 180 when I went into banking, thinking I'd finally become the best white man and eldest son I was supposed to be. Ha! In the end, only three things matter: one of them is letting go of things not meant for you.

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sep 15 , 2020   •   7 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as an Industrial Machinist

I had never touched any kind of industrial machinery before, but my aluminum coupling turned out better than my mentor's. But that career would have been an over-compensation for the career that my dad loss.

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Sep 8 , 2020   •   6 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Web Developer

I made websites just because, out of pure joy, pure curiosity, pure creativity. Then people started paying me for it. Who knew that would happen?!? But with every gain, there is great loss...

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Sep 1, 2020   •   8 Min Read

Reinventing Identities as a Computer Teacher

Navigating identity, creativity and lifestyle freedom requires a soul with stamina. As Maya Angelou said, "The price is high, the reward is great." May these stories of my wild 16 career identity re-inventions inspire you to make brave leaps of faith, surrender to the unfolding of your unique path, and examine every choices with awe and delight.

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Aug 26, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Artist • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Artist, dreamer, inventor, and designer? Do you believe that we can create anything we can imagine? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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AUg 19, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Ruler • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Ruler, leader, queen, and boss? Do you believe that order and systems achieve excellence? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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AUg 12, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Nurturer • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Nurturer, care giver, guardian angel, and supporter? Do you believe that we're all walking each other home? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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AUg 5, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Humanitarian • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Humanitarian, activist, unsung hero, and neighbor? Do you believe that you matter and in loving thy neighbor? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jul 29, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Jester • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Jester, entertainer, comedian, and energy shifter? Do you believe in always having fun and living in the moment? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jul 22, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Lover • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Lover, goddess, hedonist, and seductress? Do you believe in following your bliss and making others feel special? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jul 15, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Heroine • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Heroine, warrior, survivor, and champion? Do you believe you will triumph over anything you set your mind to? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jul 8, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Alchemist • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Alchemist, magician, visionary, and shaman? Do you believe that magic and miracles are real? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jul 1, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Maverick • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Maverick, rebel, daredevil, and badass? Do you believe that rules are meant to be broken? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jun 24, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Explorer • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Explorer, pioneer, seeker, and risk taker? Do you believe that meaning comes from living our core values? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jun 17, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Sage • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The Sage, teacher, oracle, and scientist? Do you believe that the truth will set you free? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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Jun 10, 2020   •   2 Min Read

The Innocent • Branding with Sacred Archetypes

Are you The optimist, idealist, and believer? Do you believe that there's beauty in simplicity and joy in grace? Read on and take the quiz to find out!

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JUN 10, 2020   •  4 Min Read

The 10 Types of Freedom • What Freedoms Would You Add to Cart?

After a talk I gave last year, audience members asked me what fuelled / drove my quest for freedom. "All I've ever wanted... is to be free," those words fell out of my jaw for the first time.

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Jun 2, 2020   •   7 Min Read

Post-it Wall of Greatness

Have you ever faced the uncomfortable "Now what?!?" after you've achieved a milestone? You thought you'd be ecstatic, but instead are fogged in doubt and uncertainty of "Is this all there is?" Then it's time to make a Post-it Wall of Greatness!

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May 26, 2020   •   8 Min Read

Soul Coming of Age Ritual • A Story of Legally Changing my First and Last Name

When I meet people and say, "Hi, I'm Ellany" they'll usually comment that it's a beautiful name or a very unique name. I always smile, "Thank you," and once in a while I add, "I chose it."

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May 19, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Farewell In the Air • A Story of Dad Passing Away at the Start of my Exquisite Freedom Tour

I had decided to celebrate my semi-retirement at 33 with an Exquisite Freedom Tour: 16 countries in 16 weeks, to visit besties, clients and fans around the world so that I could select my next home base....

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May 12, 2020   •   5 Min Read

iPhone in Watery Grave • A Story of Hope and Believing in Miracles

I once went sunset paddle boarding off the pristine beaches of Boracay, in the Philippines. I had my shiny new iPhone sealed in a high grade water proof case, clipped around my neck. As I was mesmerized by the sunset, I felt like a dip so jumped into the ocean for a swim...

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May 5, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Shifting Tides Freedom (Part 4)

Leena creates product suites and marketing materials for the travel industry. She’s a free spirit and citizen of the world. She moved 11 timezones in pursuit of career opportunities, which came knocking from London to Singapore, from Dubai to Sydney. To her surprise...

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Apr 28, 2020   •   3 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Mirage Freedom (Part 3)

I've shared Rose's story of Unfulfilling Freedom (aka creative starvation) and Lily's story of Untethered Freedom (aka "spiritual vegetable).This week, meet Priya and her story of Mirage Freedom.

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Apr 21, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Untethered Freedom (Part 2)

Lily had a 15 year career in global procurement, a glamorous life, a $250,000/year salary, a practically inexhaustible expense account, a fancy wardrobe, and anything else money could buy. However...

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Apr 14, 2020   •   3 Min Read

Freedom Masks • Unfulfilling Freedom (Part 1)

By all external standards, Rose has made it. She has 47 real estate properties, more money than she could ever need, and doesn’t have to work another day in her life. However...

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apr 7, 2020   •  7 Min Read

Rest and Recharge • How to Source from a Wiser Fuel

It's official: Cuba is the best place to unplug... because there is no plug. Internet is scarcely available at a teeny tiny handful of locations. If you can't make it to Cuba to fully unplug, I've gathered my favourite quotes and wisdom gems here to remind us all to rest and recharge.

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Mar 31, 2020   •   6 Min Read

Ellany's 9 Micro-habits for More Peace, Joy and Time Freedom

All these spiritual flues, energetic ascensions, and mystical experiences, I never asked for any of them. Did I? I feel like I made a heap of choices before coming to Earth, but I can't remember most of them. Would I have lived differently if I remembered those choices?

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mar 25, 2020   •  2 Min Read

You Are Needed • How to Not Catch the Comparison-itis Virus during a Global Pandemic

You are needed. Just not all at the same time. This pandemic is not a sprint, it's a tag team marathon. Wait your turn because the relay baton is coming.

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mar 24, 2020   •   7 Min Read

Power of Iterations • How I Built my Signature Program Organically and Gracefully

Whether it's a workshop, a virtual training or something in between, your masterclass, your life's masterpiece, can be created the hard way or the graceful way

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mar 17, 2020   •  6 Min Read

Reverse Bucket List • How to Use Awe to Fuel Motivation and Drive

The Reverse Bucket List (RBL) is a celebration and a remembering of truth. Just as awakened humans have turned from fossil fuels to renewable sources of energy, awakened entrepreneurs are using the RBL to turn from fear / scarcity / shame toward awe as fuel.

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mar 10, 2020   •  6 Min Read

The Invisible Child • How I Discovered that I Do Matter

Who knew that "failing" at a ropes course would lead to my hyperachiever saboteur's RIP funeral. And the moment my feet touched the ground, a lightning bolt of truth shot through the back of my head, neck and shoulder blades, “How have I never mattered before? How is this the first time?”

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MAR 3, 2020  •  5 Min Read

An Overachiever's Hierarchy of Needs

Today, I'm writing to you from Odessa, Ukraine. Totally did not plan on being here. The only thing I knew about Ukraine is that the Ukrainian figure skater Oksana Baiul who won the gold medal in 1994. And the only thing I knew about Odessa is that it's by the sea. I love the sea <3

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feb 25, 2020   •  5 Min Read

How Sacred Archetypes Reveal Hidden Keys to Behavioral Change

Why do we repeat the same behavioral patterns, when we know they are detrimental to our freedom? Sacred Archetypes can reveal hidden keys to unlocking our relationships with identity, money, people, creativity and destiny.

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feb 18, 2020   •  4 Min Read

Vipassana Practice • How the Tortoise Always Wins the Race

Though I have chosen intense moments of "hare," I am the endurance tortoise, where slow and steady wins the race. Every time. Like Angela Duckworth says, "Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare."

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feb 11, 2020   •  4 Min Read

Vipassana 10-day Silent Meditation Retreat is like Elective Surgery

A Vipassana 10-day silent meditation retreat is like elective surgery. You know you don't absolutely need it, but you also know that it could significantly enhance your quality of life. Yes, there will likely be pain, but there will also be freedom.

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Feb 5, 2020   •   10 Min Read

Making Peace with Time • 4 Iterations from Busyness Tracker to Time Freedom

Entrepreneurship can seem overwhelming, where the more you do, the more there is to do. At least with freedompreneurship, the more you do, the less there is to do in the long run. With freedompreneurship, there is freedom at the end of the tunnel...

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jan 12, 2020   •   2 Min Read

Dare to Lead: from Armored Leadership to Daring Leadership

Based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown, this Dare to Lead table guides founders, overachievers, leaders, trailblazers and entrepreneurs from armored leadership to daring leadership.

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jan 1, 2020   •   6 Min Read

The 9 Year Growth Cycles

When you flow with the natural cycles of growth, you feel lighter and more at peace. When forcing against them, it feels like hugging a cactus or walking on porcupines. What will you chose: peace or porcupine?

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dec 4, 2019   •   11 Min Read

86 Motivations that Fueled my Becoming a Freedompreneur

At Guide to Grace, we hold and guide women on their leap from solopreneur to entrepreneur or from entrepreneur to freedompreneur.

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nov 27, 2019   •  7 Min Read

Book Dedication • Define your Why by Focusing on your Who

Writing for years has helped me see that I can only go as fast as the slowest part of me. My book will take as long as it takes. I cannot rush the alchemy of "pain juice" into gold.

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nov 20, 2019   •  4 Min Read

Dear Fear • Two Love Letters to Clients on How to Approach Fears (Part 2)

It's natural to feel afraid. What you do about it will determine who you become.

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nov 13, 2019   •  8 Min Read

Dear Fear • Two Love Letters to Clients on How to Approach Fears (Part 1)

Before a big change, every human experiences fear, whether it's real or not.

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oct 9, 2019   •  5 Min Read

Ascension Flu • 6 Ways to Survive a Spiritual Flu

Even though I had a near breaking point when I had to poop in a plastic bag inside my tent, I felt invincible because: no one can offload their shit onto me, no one could steal my joy. No one. And that is the kind of invincibility I wish for you.

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OCT 2, 2019  •  5 Min Read

The Knot • How Somatic Symptoms Points to Self-Betrayal

Nothing can prepare you for the rupture of betrayal. Nobody can prepare you for the inconvenience of spiritual awakening. One gnarly knot in my spine woke me up to what betrayal truly unveils.

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SEP 24 , 2019  •  7 Min Read

My First Spiritual Awakening • Escaping the Empath-Narcissist Trap

Never even heard of the term 'narcissist' before. Five months I heard of 'HSP.' Four months later, I learned of 'empath.' Three years and 8 months later, I learned about the empath-narcissist trap. Seven 7 months after that is when I realized I had a spiritual awakening... 6 years and 4 months ago.

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SEP 18, 2019   •  6 Min Read

Hot and Itchy Endurance Test • How I Reclaimed My Invincibility

Even though I had a near breaking point when I had to poop in a plastic bag inside my tent, I felt invincible because: no one can offload their shit onto me, no one could steal my joy. No one. And that is the kind of invincibility I wish for you.

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Sep 10, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Failure Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Always say yes and take on more than I can handle, stressing self to the max. 🌀 Hide or fall off the face of the earth when I start to notice that I can’t meet all my promises. 🌀 Chronically procrastinate, poor follow-through (eg. missed deadlines, late fees).

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Sep 9, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Powerless Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Present self as having it all together and don’t need anything from anyone. 🌀 Be a know-it-all, constantly correcting others with unsolicited advice, closed off to new insights, lessons, or perspectives. 🌀 Uncomfortable in a room if not holding a position of power or importance (usually the leader, rarely the follower).

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Sep 8, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Mistake Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Extremely high expectations of self/others to be good, perfect, altruistic at all times. 🌀 Vacillate between extreme perfectionism and extreme rebellion/non-conformity. 🌀 Take on others’ poor behavior as my own fault, enabling them to avoid personal responsibility and accountability.

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Sep 7, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Disposable Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Give away my resources (time, energy, money, body, services, etc.) for free or for very little, as if they were disposable. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own security and well being, thus perpetually feeling depleted, indebted and/or in survival mode. 🌀 Overstay miserable relationships and/or flee at the first sign of conflict.

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Sep 6, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The "Too Much" Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Constantly misunderstood and told to calm down, be quiet and/or stop moving. 🌀 Others are intimidated / overwhelmed by the bigness of my ambition, energy, speed, creative pursuits, voice, etc. 🌀 Chronically repress my needs / desires, never asking for their fulfillment, fearing that they are “too much” for others.

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Sep 5, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Abandoned Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Design my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions (eg. workaholism), thus further isolating myself. 🌀 Contort self to be what others want, so to be loved, accepted and/or validated. 🌀 Overstay relationships that I’ve long outgrown because I can’t bear ending up alone and/or abandoning others.

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Sep 4, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Burden Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Stay small and mousy, so not to make noise, make waves or bother anyone. 🌀 Extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, rarely creating support systems that allow others to give to me, thus feeling alone and isolated (curse of self-sufficiency). 🌀 Feel obligated to jump in and rescue / fix everything that is wrong, unable not to.

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Sep 3, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Freak Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Feel like the black sheep of the family, never really fitting in anywhere, and longing for true belonging. 🌀 Carry heavy false belief that life is lonely, unkind or not made for people like me. 🌀 Suffer from severe self-doubt and/or self-hatred due to lack of loving recognition, by self and/or others, of my unique gifts.

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Sep 2, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Invisible Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Live in chronic stress / fear that it’s dangerous to be seen (eg. I’ll be burnt at the stake or hacked down to size). 🌀 Shy, always redirect focus on others to hide true self, worth, and/or power. 🌀 Unable not to give to others, even if at my own expense, exhaustion or annihilation.

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Sep 1, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Deprived Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Carry the false belief that it’s evil to have (money, love, joy, pleasure), that I need to be poor to be good. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own well being by over-working and under-earning. 🌀 Crushed under the weight of scarcity, with never enough time, money, opportunities, support, love to go around.

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Aug 31, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Insufficient Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Rarely content because life is ruled by impossibly high standards of perfection. 🌀 Chronically over-give, over-do and over-compensate just to get the same success and/or validation as everyone else. 🌀 Organize life around duty and survival (eg. debt, clutter, barren home) rather than thriving (eg. beauty, joy, pleasure).

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Aug 30, 2019   •   2 Min Read

The Unsafe Child • Wounded Child Archetypes

🌀 Suffer from hyper-vigilance, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. 🌀 Overly naïve and trusting, thus attracting narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists. 🌀 Take a lot of uncalculated risks, living close to the edge, with few safety nets.

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aug 28, 2019   •  3 Min Read

Big Picture Reset • A Grounding Ritual for Momentum and Consistent Success

How do you gracefully and joyfully keep up the momentum in your business, especially during summer lulls, back-to-school frenzy, and blink-and-it's-here holiday busyness? I use the Big Picture Reset as my grounding ritual for consistent success.

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Aug 21, 2019   •   4 Min Read

The Pillow Fort • How I Gained Time Abundance and Freedom

My knew about herding time block to free up my time. My heart knew the joy and abundance of time. Even my soul knew The Void and no-time. But my body didn't yet know until that night how to halt time to near infinite.

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Jul 17, 2019   •   5 Min Read

1,000 Reclamations for Freedom • How Sacred Contracts Unfold in their own Divine Timing (Part 2)

There's no way to know the intricacies of the unfolding of our sacred contracts, which our soul signed before incarnating on earth. Even though we often feel like blind leading the blind, it is only in retrospect that we can connect the dots of all that we have reclaimed and see the bigger picture of our destiny.

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Jul 10, 2019  •   7 Min Read

1,000 Reclamations for Freedom • How Writing a Memoir Requires Much Soul Maturation (Part 1)

Back in 2013, I bought Jack Canfield's “how to write a bestseller” program and decided that by the end of that year, my bestseller would be complete. LOL! #hownaive #universedoesnotworkthatway

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MAY 15, 2019  •   6 Min Read

How to Hire a Dream Team when Everyone and their Cat is a Marketing Expert

Hiring a dream team for your online business can be challenging! There's no one-size-fits-all. Here's a guide to help you discern your needs and save you time, frustration, time, money, and time!

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may 1, 2019   •  7 Min Read

Power of Sequencing • Top 4 Solopreneur Pitfalls and How to Succeed in the Right Order

If given one match, a lantern, and a map, would you use the match to light the lantern to see the map... or use the match to burn the map and fumble in the dark.

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MAY 1, 2019  •   3 Min Read

The 4 Stages of Adult Learning (and Branding in One Word)

From unconscious incompetence, to conscious incompetence, to conscious competence, then to unconscious competence, navigating the 4 Stages of Adult Learning is uncomfortable. Yet, there's no way around it...

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Feb 9, 2019  •   2 Min Read

This Self-Development Junkie • A "One Night Plus 100k/10/98" Sensation

Are you a self-development junkie too? Have you signed up for every retreat that sparked your soul, every workshop that tickled your mind, and every healing modality that soothed your heart? I have...

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jan 14, 2019   •   8 Min Read

The Freedom Experiment • How I'm Traveling Every Country in the World (Part 3/3)

At this point on my globetrotting journeys, I mastered being a digital nomad, traveling 20 countries in 16 weeks. So I figured, why stop? I always wanted to visit Argentina, which didn't make it onto Around-the-World 2005 trip because Star Alliance didn't have an airline partner down there...

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dec 26, 2018   •   10 Min Read

The Freedom Experiment • How I'm Traveling Every Country in the World (Part 2/3)

At the end of my work term in Rwanda, I didn't have the chance to visit the Virunga Mountain Gorillas, which I had diligently saved up for, because the ministry that issued work permits held my passport until, and I only got it back the Friday before I left the country the next morning.

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dec 12, 2018   •  9 Min Read

The Freedom Experiment • How I'm Traveling Every Country in the World (Part 1/3)

I was once interviewed by my friend Ric at Counting Countries and asked if I always dreamed of visiting every country in the world. "Not at all!", was my answer...

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SEP 11, 2018   •   5 Min Read

The Art and Paradox of Non-Belonging • 20 Strange Ways I Don't Belong

The Universe pumped adventure into my lungs, but clipped my canary wings. The Universe encoded freedom into my soul, but shackled every limb with gender, filial piety, birth order, personality, cultural, and social chains.

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mar 30, 2018   •  4 Min Read

7 Tips to Convert Strangers into Friends, Using Interact Quiz

When you convert strangers into friends, it's always a hit. Friends like friends. Friends get value from friends. They stay friends, tell others about your work, become loyal readers, transform into raving fans, serve as word of mouth marketing.

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NOV 8, 2017   •  2 Min Read

5 Attempts at Sharing Ayahuasca Higher Consciousness Experience

Human language is so limited to describe the mystical experience. Even so, the soul residing in human flesh can't help but try anyway.

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OCT 31, 2017   •  3 Min Read

Brené Brown's No. 1 Raving Fan

From the day I stumbled upon Brené Brown's TED talk back in 2012, where she was the first person to make me feel like I was enough, I've read every word in every book she's written, watched every video she's ever appeared in, enrolled in every certification she's offered and followed her like her #1 Raving Fan!

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OCT 04, 2017   •  2 Min Read

Ellany's Favourite Poems and Prayers on Love, Grace and Freedom

Sometimes, the heart needs balm that only poems and prayers can provide. May these favourites help you remember what the soul already knew.

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MAY 24, 2017  •   3 Min Read

An 19 Life Changing Quotes & Poems by Najwa Zebian

"These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb." Her words helped my lungs exhale the deepest relief. May Najwa Zebian's poetry be a balm to your lungs as they were for me.

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apr 26, 2017   •  5 Min Read

Stages of Dating • How to Love your Business to Court your Audience

Entrepreneurship is like dating. When you're dating your business, are you still flirting with other businesses? Or worse yet, are you getting into bed with your old corporate job? :O

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mar 8, 2017   •  3 Min Read

Red Light Juggler • How I Reclaimed my Clairscentience

Would you run into the red light on a huge avenue, red light, after red light, after red light? Just to get home. What I learned about courage and showing up from a juggler.

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dec 28, 2016   •   2 Min Read

14 Differences between Hyperachievers and Liberated Overachievers

I'm in Georgetown, Guyana, and there's not much to do here. So it's given me plenty of time to cross-reference a tidy table of the 14 differences I've observed in my overachiever clients, colleagues, friends and self, between self-sabotaging Hyperachievers and liberated Overachievers.

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dec 21, 2016   •  4 Min Read

How People Might React to your Legal Name Change

It's not every day that you decide to legally change your first AND last name. No marriage, no divorce, just because my soul siren called it to the rest of my heart, body and mind. I wanted my outside to finally match my insides. Here's what you can expect when you do so.\

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jun 10, 2016   •  6 Min Read

The Difference between a Coach, Mentor, Teacher and Consultant

A coach rides along side you. A mentor rides in front of you. A teacher rides in front of you. A consultant rides for you.

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MAY 18, 2016   •  5 Min Read

How School Kills Creativity • My First Short Story

I was watching a TED Talk on Why Schools Kill Creativity. A couple of days later, I met up with a high school friend for brunch. We reminisced and somehow ended up on the topic of floss. She exclaimed, "Oh my god, do you remember your floss story, the one you wrote in high school?" My first reaction was of trembling...

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Apr 15, 2016   •  4 Min Read

Masculine vs Feminine Business Hierarchy of Needs

If your business is profitable and you're transitioning it from earning active income to residual income, you'll want to know the difference between masculine and feminine business hierarchy of needs...

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MAr 2, 2016   •   5 Min Read

8 Ways Simplero Eliminated Multiple Systems Chaos

I was spending $240/month!! And even then, I was missing functions that I needed. Now I just use Simplero.com as an all-in-one solution for $169/month.

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JAN 2, 2016   •  2 Min Read

The Importance of Returning to your Core Values

Do you ever wonder why you do certain things, and why you don't do certain things? On our path of personal growth, most everything can be traced back to our core values...

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SEP 30, 2015   •  2 Min Read

Fierce and Free • 15 Commitments I Ask of My Coaching Clients for Joyful Liberation

You want to succeed? You want to be free? You'll need to show up, be seen and live brave. And it all starts with commitment from self to self. If you're not ready to make these commitments, you won't get the most out of your coaching relationship.

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Introducing 12 freedom fundamentals to guide you from a frantic one-woman-show to a joyful freedompreneur. Are you ready to grow from freedom seeker to liberator? ⤵︎

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Just because you can doesn't mean you should.
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