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The 5 Freedom Factors • Discerning Between Passion, Calling, Mission, Vocation and Profession
There is an exquisite freedom at the intersection of: Passion, Calling, Mission, Vocation and Profession. Meet the 3 archetypes who have not quite arrived and why.
Consciously Choosing and Naming our Core Values
Do you ever wonder why you do certain things, and why you don't do certain things? On our path of personal growth, most everything can be traced back to our core values...
Power of Sequencing • Top 4 Solopreneur "Wrong Order" Case Studies
If given one match, a lantern, and a map, would you use the match to light the lantern to see the map... or use the match to burn the map and fumble in the dark?
The Art and Paradox of Non-Belonging • 20 Strange Ways I Don't Belong
The Universe pumped adventure into my lungs, but clipped my canary wings. The Universe encoded freedom into my soul, but shackled every limb with gender, filial piety, birth order, personality, cultural, and social chains.
The 4 Stages of Adult Learning • What is Branding in Two Words
From unconscious incompetence, to conscious incompetence, to conscious competence, then to unconscious competence, navigating the 4 Stages of Adult Learning is uncomfortable. Yet, there's no way around it...
Adopted Family • Five Degrees of Joy Mirroring (Soul-knowing)
Mama Bear always looked at me with a sparkle of "You. Are. A. Bringer. Of. Joy." Me, joy? As if. But after 5 degrees of mirroring, I couldn't deny it anymore. They didn't see joy in me. They saw me as joy. I was the joy. Could it be?
My 16 Careers • Reinventing Identities as a Psychotherapist (Part 15/16)
Midway through my certification, I developed the ability to feel what my clients were feeling, but 2-3 days before they felt it. Hearts were cracked open and mended with grace. But just because you can, doesn't mean you should...
My 16 Careers • Reinventing Identities as a Success Coach (Part 12/16)
For the first time in my life, I felt seen for who I am, not for what I'd achieved. I had no idea that I had walked into the alchemical fire that would forge me from a freedom seeker into a liberator. All triggered by a date who stood me up!
My 16 Careers • Reinventing Identities as an International Aid Worker (Part 8/16)
For the first time in my life I followed my heart, not what was demanded of me. I decided I wanted to do good as a career, it was destined for me. I would learn the hard way that destiny is not a destination.
My 16 Careers • Reinventing Identities as an Energy Researcher (Part 6/16)
I felt mad making a career 180 and starting over from scratch at this point. Who walks away from job offers and amazing female mentors?!? It'd be another 9 years before I discerned: Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.
The Artist • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Artist, dreamer, inventor, and designer? Do you believe that we can create anything we can imagine? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Ruler • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Ruler, leader, queen, and boss? Do you believe that order and systems achieve excellence? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Nurturer • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Nurturer, care giver, guardian angel, and supporter? Do you believe that we're all walking each other home? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Humanitarian • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Humanitarian, activist, unsung hero, and neighbor? Do you believe that you matter and in loving thy neighbor? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Jester • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Jester, entertainer, comedian, and energy shifter? Do you believe in always having fun and living in the moment? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Lover • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Lover, goddess, hedonist, and seductress? Do you believe in following your bliss and making others feel special? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Heroine • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Heroine, warrior, survivor, and champion? Do you believe you will triumph over anything you set your mind to? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Alchemist • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Alchemist, magician, visionary, and shaman? Do you believe that magic and miracles are real? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Maverick • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Maverick, rebel, daredevil, and badass? Do you believe that rules are meant to be broken? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Explorer • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Explorer, pioneer, seeker, and risk taker? Do you believe that meaning comes from living our core values? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Sage • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The Sage, teacher, oracle, and scientist? Do you believe that the truth will set you free? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
The Innocent • Branding with Sacred Archetypes
Are you The optimist, idealist, and believer? Do you believe that there's beauty in simplicity and joy in grace? Read on and take the quiz to find out!
Name Change • A Coming of Age Ritual for the Soul
What's in a name? As my soul maturated, it wanted to be called by its real name. It wanted to experience harmony and be free from the melancholy of its past. A name change was my soul's coming of a age ritual.
Power of Iterations • How I Built my Signature Program Organically
Whether it's a workshop, a virtual training or something in between, your masterclass, your life's masterpiece, can be created the hard way or the graceful way
How Sacred Archetypes Reveal Hidden Keys to Behavioral Change
Why do we repeat the same behavioral patterns, when we know they are detrimental to our freedom? Sacred Archetypes can reveal hidden keys to unlocking our relationships with identity, money, people, creativity and destiny.
Dare to Lead: From Armored Leadership to Daring Leadership
Based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown, this Dare to Lead table guides founders, overachievers, leaders, trailblazers and entrepreneurs from armored leadership to daring leadership.
86 Motivations that Fueled my Becoming a Freedompreneur
At Guide to Grace, we hold and guide women on their leap from solopreneur to entrepreneur or from entrepreneur to freedompreneur.
Book Dedication • Define your Why by Focusing on your Who
Writing for years has helped me see that I can only go as fast as the slowest part of me. My book will take as long as it takes. I cannot rush the alchemy of "pain juice" into gold.
The Failure Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Always say yes and take on more than I can handle, stressing self to the max. 🌀 Hide or fall off the face of the earth when I start to notice that I can’t meet all my promises. 🌀 Chronically procrastinate, poor follow-through (eg. missed deadlines, late fees).
The Powerless Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Present self as having it all together and don’t need anything from anyone. 🌀 Be a know-it-all, constantly correcting others with unsolicited advice, closed off to new insights, lessons, or perspectives. 🌀 Uncomfortable in a room if not holding a position of power or importance (usually the leader, rarely the follower).
The Mistake Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Extremely high expectations of self/others to be good, perfect, altruistic at all times. 🌀 Vacillate between extreme perfectionism and extreme rebellion/non-conformity. 🌀 Take on others’ poor behavior as my own fault, enabling them to avoid personal responsibility and accountability.
The Disposable Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Give away my resources (time, energy, money, body, services, etc.) for free or for very little, as if they were disposable. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own security and well being, thus perpetually feeling depleted, indebted and/or in survival mode. 🌀 Overstay miserable relationships and/or flee at the first sign of conflict.
The “Too Much” Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Constantly misunderstood and told to calm down, be quiet and/or stop moving. 🌀 Others are intimidated / overwhelmed by the bigness of my ambition, energy, speed, creative pursuits, voice, etc. 🌀 Chronically repress my needs / desires, never asking for their fulfillment, fearing that they are “too much” for others.
The Abandoned Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Design my entire life inside chronic self-sufficiency and/or addictions (eg. workaholism), thus further isolating myself. 🌀 Contort self to be what others want, so to be loved, accepted and/or validated. 🌀 Overstay relationships that I’ve long outgrown because I can’t bear ending up alone and/or abandoning others.
The Burden Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Stay small and mousy, so not to make noise, make waves or bother anyone. 🌀 Extraordinarily capable and self-reliant, rarely creating support systems that allow others to give to me, thus feeling alone and isolated (curse of self-sufficiency). 🌀 Feel obligated to jump in and rescue / fix everything that is wrong, unable not to.
The Freak Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Feel like the black sheep of the family, never really fitting in anywhere, and longing for true belonging. 🌀 Carry heavy false belief that life is lonely, unkind or not made for people like me. 🌀 Suffer from severe self-doubt and/or self-hatred due to lack of loving recognition, by self and/or others, of my unique gifts.
The Invisible Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Live in chronic stress / fear that it’s dangerous to be seen (eg. I’ll be burnt at the stake or hacked down to size). 🌀 Shy, always redirect focus on others to hide true self, worth, and/or power. 🌀 Unable not to give to others, even if at my own expense, exhaustion or annihilation.
The Deprived Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Carry the false belief that it’s evil to have (money, love, joy, pleasure), that I need to be poor to be good. 🌀 Chronically borrow against my own well being by over-working and under-earning. 🌀 Crushed under the weight of scarcity, with never enough time, money, opportunities, support, love to go around.
The Insufficient Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Rarely content because life is ruled by impossibly high standards of perfection. 🌀 Chronically over-give, over-do and over-compensate just to get the same success and/or validation as everyone else. 🌀 Organize life around duty and survival (eg. debt, clutter, barren home) rather than thriving (eg. beauty, joy, pleasure).
The Unsafe Child • Wounded Child Archetypes
🌀 Suffer from hyper-vigilance, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. 🌀 Overly naïve and trusting, thus attracting narcissists, sociopaths and/or con artists. 🌀 Take a lot of uncalculated risks, living close to the edge, with few safety nets.
Wounded Child Archetypes
Are you swirling in busyness, drowning in overwhelm or paralyzed by perfectionism? Wondering where all your time, inner peace, fulfillment and aliveness are being leeched? Explore these 12 Wounded Child Archetypes to name the wound, shed the lies and free the soul. ⤵︎
Red Light Juggler • How I Reclaimed my Clairscentience
Would you run into the red light on a huge avenue, red light, after red light, after red light? Just to get home. What I learned about courage and showing up from a juggler.
Fierce and Free • 15 Commitments I Ask of My Coaching Clients for Joyful Liberation
You want to succeed? You want to be free? You'll need to show up, be seen and live brave. And it all starts with commitment from self to self. If you're not ready to make these commitments, you won't get the most out of your coaching relationship.