BY ELLANY LEA • dec 28, 2016 • 2 MIN READ
14 Differences between Hyperachievers and Liberated Overachievers
I'm in Georgetown, Guyana, and there's not much to do here. So it's given me plenty of time to cross-reference a tidy table of the 14 differences I've observed in my overachiever clients, colleagues, friends and self, between self-sabotaging Hyperachievers and liberated Overachievers.
LESS IS BETTER
You know the saying "Less is more"? I don't agree. Less is not more. Less is better. I don't want more. I need better.
|Do more, achieve more, achieve more, achieve more, no sleep, no play, no sweetness, just a fast-track train to Burnoutville||Sleep, play, reflect to protect and nurture self and the ability to achieve|
|Commit to everything, frantically juggling all the balls in the air||Discern top 2 important priorities from a flurry of distractions before committing to action|
|Run around with a fire extinguisher putting out everyone else's fires||Navigate their every choice by following the voice of their Soul and their top 2 values|
|Say yes to everyone out of guilt or awkwardness (then resent them through out)||Say no gracefully and often, knowing that no is a full sentence|
|Find creative ways to do it all||Discern and choose only a few things to go deep into|
|See choices through the lens of scarcity, leading to constant FOMO||See choices through the lens of soul maturation: every time I say no, I am saying yes to Who I Truly Am|
|Don't set boundaries for fear of being disliked (or ostracized, expulsed, crucified, etc.)||Set empowering boundaries in advance so no need to say no later|
|People please to be liked or to fit in (leading to victimhood and/or martyrdom)||Forego short-term (or any) popularity for long-term self-respect and sovereignty|
|Are victims of sunken cost (I've already invested so much, if I just put in more, I can force this to work!)||Know when to cut their loses, are masterful at the art of letting go|
|Procrastinate and blindly assumes the best case scenario||Prepare buffers and cushions for a realistic human experience on planet Earth|
|Focus on past regrets (depression) and future worries (anxiety)||Live only in the NOW, there is nowhere else to be or exist|
|Wander aimlessly on a vague or materialistic goal (eg. I want to help people / I want a bigger boat)||Take action based on clear, inspiring, and meaningful soul yearnings (eg. I wish all children are seen and loved. I dream of all women being free to be their own person. I yearn for each human to know what it's like to belong)|
|Throw around lofty goals and intentions which lead to small results||Consistently take action on microscopic achievable goals, ride the wave of that momentum and celebrate every small progress that accumulates to massive results|
|When things go awry, add more quick fixes or random projects||When things go awry, stop and radically eradicate busyness, obligations and distractions to reset the space|
WHAT'S YOUR SCORE?
What's your score out of 14? Are you a self-sabotaging hyperachiever or liberated overachiever?
With infinite grace,